Consciously Unplugging: The Path to Inner Restitution

My husband and I live in Atlanta, Ga. This might as well be 
Tahiti to the rest of our family which resides in small pockets 
scattered around the south of Florida and whom have rarely 
ventured far from their comfort zone. Ever since our son was 
born, they have made a valiant effort to visit often. This last 
time my dad and step-mom decided to visit, I thought that 
staying in a family cabin in the northern mountains of 
Georgia would be just delightful for us; this way they would 
have a lot of one-one-one time with the little and we would 
all get a little getaway.


Upon arrival, I immediately knew that this was going to be 
quite the vacation – not only was there no WiFi (at all), there 
was also no reception of any kind. And, to top all of that off, 
the ‘smart’ TV had a horrendous cable connection which 
made watching TV impossible and the DVD player made 
movies look like they were from the 1950s – black and white 
and strangely warped.


Needless to say, I was distressed as I had brought with me, 
despite knowing that this was a getaway, a ‘little’ work to be 
done. Workaholic, much? Yeap. That’s me.


In that moment I accepted that this was a message from the 
Universe and decided to embrace the unexpected with total 
non-attachment. Luckily, I had also brought a book with me, 
so, I figured that if all else failed my inner work maniac could 
at the very least, read.


What I discovered as the hours went by was that this was 
perhaps the most fortuitous thing that could’ve happened to 
me and to my family.


That night my dad, step-mom and I stayed up playing poker, 
21, and war while we drank half a bottle of wine and laughed 
until our sides hurt as my baby slept soundly in our upstairs 
bedroom. My husband, who arrived later that evening, 
poured himself a glass and rocked himself quietly in a 
cushioned rocking chair next to a pseudo-tiffany lamp while 
he basked in his newest collection – the Game of Thrones 


Throughout the house the feeling was warm, familial, quiet 
and romantic. At one point, my husband looked over at me 
and said, “Honey, this is how I want to retire.” And, in that 
moment I knew that this was how I wanted to live, period.


The rest of our days were just perfect – small trips to local 
shops, barbeque, baby laughter, wine and a hot tub. The last 
day of our stay as my husband and I soaked in the hot tub, 
indulging in some alone time as lovers instead of parents 
(for a change) we talked about our dreams, our hopes, our 
 visions and we laughed and cuddled. It was the first time in 
a very long time that we had shared time together in that 
way. In that moment I remembered why we fell in love and 
why I was so grateful to have chosen him as my life partner 
and as the father of my child.


During this time, away from seemingly everything and 
disconnected from the constant stream of information and 
stimulation we have become accustomed to, I became full of 
so many ideas for clearing up the clutter in my home and 
moving forward in my business. I felt overflowing with 
creativity and joy – and then it hit me…


I felt restored.


For a few weeks prior to this trip I felt that I was losing the 
joy in a lot of my life, particularly in my marriage and in my 
home life in general. After a few days in that small and 
remote cabin my appreciation for my partnership, my 
parents, and my life overall blossomed tremendously. And 
THAT is the magic of consciously unplugging.


I learned the value of truly taking a break – a real one that 
does not involve a ‘little’ work. The value of choosing to 
unplug and allow the mind and the spirit to just explore itself 
surrounded by green things, sunshine and, of course, wine. I 
learned that laughter cures almost all woes and whatever is 
left will surely be taken care of by 20 minutes in a hot tub. I 
learned that rainstorms in the woods sound absolutely 
terrifying, but as long as our AC doesn’t go out, it’s also the 
most relaxing symphony ever.


And, above all, I learned that I wanted to live a life where 
unplugging was consistently scheduled into our journey. A 
life where we could take our family into a quiet space and 
enjoy each other simply and honestly. The spirit needs 
restoration, needs reflection, and needs warmth of familial 
love. The more time dedicated to all of these, the more 
restitution in every area of our lives.


Message received. Message delivered.



Sincerely, Shakti. <3

Personal Development: Education & Mind Wealth For A New Era

Personal Development is where it’s AT friends. If you aren’t hunkering down and devouring personal development in your ears or through your eyes you are MISSING OUT on a huge resource that could dramatically change your life.
We are entering a time where traditional education is NO LONGER the most assured way to attain success. We live in an era of the Entrepreneur and those guys, and gals, make it happen through an arsenal of personal curriculum that raises their mindset and their aspirations. Many of the TOP successful business men and women of our time have achieved that status through self study and the right associations. A VERY small minority ever had any formal training in their area of expertise.
Let that sink in.
If you need more motivation to load up your Amazon cart full of books or your audible account full of lectures – look no further.




Let’s Talk About Money: Actions Make You Money, Wishes Do NOT.

Everyone, it seems, wants to be rich. BUT – they want to just fall instantly rich with ZERO effort, ZERO preparation, and ZERO responsibility. Totally sounds like the life of a millionaire, doesn’t it?
NO, IT FREAKING DOESN’T. That’s exactly the point. NO ONE stays wealthy – keyword STAYS – without doing some serious ass-busting, brow sweating, tear inducing work. No one stays wealthy without preparing their life to receive that kind of abundance, and no one stays wealthy without taking on an ASS LOAD of responsibility that typically involves managing an arsenal of other people as well as themselves.
Being rich is NOT what most people think it is, and it requires a ton of effort, which NO ONE is willing to put in, which is why 1% of the population owns most of the wealth. This is not an argument about ethics – take that ish somewhere else. I’m talking straight up, the people who have created themselves from NOTHING and all the blood, sweat, and tears that went into that. Their wealth came as a result of their ACTIONS. Not their wishing or bitching.


Maximum Effort: Lessons From Deadpool

Today was one of those days that started with good intentions and rapidly derailed into a series of unfortunate events. I’ve only been a mother for six months. And those six months have taken my ass for a RIDE. 

Whenever I imagined myself as a mother, I always pictured myself snuggling a rosy cheeked cherub baby in his adorable little onesie while my husband looked on adoringly at this wife and his child. 

What I quickly realized is that it more often looks like me holding a wailing infant, half naked, as I attempt to eat because I’m starving, as he bats food out of my hands and all over the place. My house looks like it threw up its contents, my clothes have all kind of unmentionable stains all over them, my hair gets washed if it’s lucky and the blacks under my eyes seem to pervade further down my face threatening to become my permanent facial complexion.

This is the NOT the shit I signed up for.

The first three months after his birth I was so heavily sedated by depression, I can hardly remember anything besides crying at every and all occasions, nipples that felt like FIRE, and feeling terrified imagining all the horrible things that could go wrong with my baby. Whenever I see a new mom smiling in her newborn pictures, looking beautiful holding her beautiful baby – I feel an immediate pang of envy and anger. That’s what I wanted. That’s not what I got.

And many times in life what I got, is not what I wanted. Sometimes, that shit happens.

I’ve spent years studying and practicing (often more like attempting to practice) mindfulness. Mindfulness was the small raft I clung to as my shit-storms tossed me around my life mercilessly. If it hadn’t been for this practice, drugs and alcohol would’ve seduced me far more than they ever did. And for a while, man, let me tell you – we had a thing going.

So, why share any of this? 

Because on days like today, I remind myself that while I am a first time mom – I’ve survived a fuck-load of adversity and difficulty. I survived heart surgery when I was three days old. THREE DAYS OLD. I looked at Death and I said, “Not today Death. Not today.” I survived countless, gut-wrenching heart breaks. I survived betrayal and abuse. I survived divorce. I survived being penniless and jobless and riding on nothing but the good graces of others and faith. I survived more medical conditions. I survived moving constantly, feeling uprooted as I attempted to find a new “home” yearly. I survived separation, anxiety, fear.

And, I WILL survive motherhood like the badass, banshee, goddess that I am.

So, I turn to mindfulness practice and “wash the dishes to wash the dishes”. I reset my mind and turn to my spirit. I turn to my writing. I turn to my team of amazing coaches. And then, I find that I am rather blessed and with good company on my little raft.

This is my reminder, and, if you’re here – this is your reminder too. 

Sincerely, Shakti

Becoming Mindful: The Preface to Knowing Yourself

Mindfulness is one of those terms that gets tossed around A LOT lately. As western culture becomes more infatuated with the East and Yoga, we are beginning to see a lot more conversation about meditation and mindfulness practice – especially when it comes to coping with stress, anxiety, and depression.
In this video I talk about developing a mindful way of life and how I truly see that as being key in getting in touch with who we are at our core and in identifying our values.


Finding Yourself: What You Want vs. What You Think You Should Want

Let me begin with a disclaimer: The difference between the two topics to be discussed can often be very difficult to discern. So much so, that we actually believe we are indeed doing what we want, although the deeper truth is far from that. If you read this and are unconvinced that what I’ve written is true, read it again. And then, read it again. And then, go into your life, look at what you are pursuing and be totally honest. If you still find that you have not fallen victim to pursuit of disingenuous followings, congratulations you are one of the very few.


First, a little background. I was a very smart kid. By very smart, I mean excelling at school where I was being taught in a second language I didn’t know very well, being socially charismatic and easily a part of a crowd, and out performing all of my peers – always. I wasn’t extremely competitive, but I didn’t have to try very hard to do well. 

Winning came naturally.

As a result of this shining promise, my parents – although not at all pushy, THANK GOD – always believed I would be a doctor. Primarily because I was obsessed with anatomy at the age of 10 and asked for a medical anatomy book as a gift for winning a writing contest at school. Strange gift for a child, you say? Yeah, exactly. I was that kid.

By the time I came to college I was very clear about the fact that I was NOT going to be a doctor of any kind. I was very much into literature and history, so I pursued those tracks out of an intense interest more than foresight for a future profession. Then, I graduated. Double B.A.s in Creative Writing and Classical History! A dream come true for this artsy fartsy heart! 

And then, the questions started.

“So..what are you going to DO with this?” No one need try very hard for me to receive the un-missable message that what I had chosen to study did not have a bright future career wise, outside of a perpetual academic track. I knew it, they knew it – we all knew it. But, to be totally honest, I had never thought that far ahead. I was very much living in the moment and I did not see needing a career as like, a reality.

To make a semi–long story short, post graduating from the University of Florida with said two degrees, I decided to become a massage therapist. Partially because I LOVED the school, (shout out to Florida School of Massage!) and partially because I was following some still small voice inside of me that felt almost magnetically attracted to this field. Let me just say that I had no prior experience with this career AT ALL. I think prior to this I maybe had two massages my whole life.

But something called me, and against all rational thought, I listened. That single decision changed my life dramatically.

Being a therapist as enriched my life in a borderline miraculous manner. I’ve had some of the most soul stirring and heart warming experiences of my entire life on a table working with my clients. That work took me deep into the trenches of my being. It taught me that in order to be real with someone else, to hold space for someone else, I have to be all of that for me – first.

It forged me into an even more sensitive, aware, and bright human being. But, more than that, it showed me that intelligence isn’t everything. More valuable still are compassion, kindness, empathy – all essential traits in order to excel in my field. The opportunities I have been presented with and the people I’ve met as a result of this work have deeply affected my life. I’m a genuinely better person as a result of this decision.

As you can imagine, when I told my family what I wanted to pursue post graduation, they were less than enthusiastic. Not, because there was anything wrong with what I wanted to do, but simply that they experienced it as being less valuable than, being a doctor, for example. So, for every family gathering ever after the conversation went something like, “Yeah, she decided to study massage therapy. BUT, she just has so much potential. I still think she’d make a great doctor.”

Now, at this point you’ve realized that for over 15 years of my life I have been receiving the message that what I really SHOULD be doing with my life, is studying medicine because I have “so much potential”. This has been repeated to me no less than 100 times throughout my life. So, after two years in my LMT career (Licensed Massage Therapy), I was suddenly hit with the “I want to do something more” bug and naturally, I began thinking that I should…you guessed it…go to medical school.

This was a natural conclusion to me given that I had been told my entire life I would be so good at it. In my own mind I rationalized what a wonderful doctor I would be. I would visualize myself tending to patients, having a “respectable” job, making a “respectable” living…and never having to worry about money, again. 

Yes, although I loved my work as an LMT, I saw that my financial potential was quite capped and that it would always be limited to how many individuals I could treat a day. I also thought about the long term future and realized that I could not potentially do this my entire life – the physical tax on the body is far too great.

So, I started doing all my research, compiling my papers, looking up programs, getting my transcripts – all the tedious, yet necessary, steps towards applying for higher education. 

What ensued was very, very interesting. 

At every turn, I was met with opposition. If I needed something, it was sure to be withheld. If I needed to turn something in, I was sure to miss the deadline by one day. If I needed to contact someone, I was sure to find them completely untraceable. And on, and on, and on. The more I reached, the further it fell and the more mentally exhausted and drained I ended up.

Eventually, I would quit, go back to my life as an LMT and be happy there for a short while until the bug hit again. Then, I would ramp up the process all over again only to end up in the same place – no where. 

Sound familiar? 

Every time I approached what my next path could be, I was approaching it as the person I thought I should be (without knowing, of course). 

I considered Physical Therapy, Naturopathic Medicine, Osteopathic Medicine, Sports Medicine, Herbology, Acupuncture …there is a very long list. Namely, I considered all the careers I considered “valuable” and to have a better financial future. 

Instead of listening to my still small voice and taking note of the things I actually wanted, i.e to be able to travel whenever I wanted, to be able to spend time with my then future kids, to be able to be my own boss, etc. I was working the question backwards: asking myself what careers were “valuable” and could make me money and then trying to plug myself into that career to see if it would work. 

I KNOW I’m not the only one who has done this. We imagine a career that is significant and promises financial ‘security’ and then we say, “Yeah, I could do that.”Most of the time, the end result is you miserable a few years down the line and several years of education wasted. 


Because you were pursuing something you thought you SHOULD want, not what you ACTUALLY wanted. Simply because you are good at something, have an interest in something, could see yourself doing something – does NOT make it the right career for you. 

Your life’s work is so much more than that. Your life work is that still small voice that comes alive when you spend time with animals, sing your favorite song, make a helpful video, counsel someone, paint a landscape, etc. Your life’s work comes from a deep and powerful place in your spirit that sends chills up and down your body when you engage in that particular activity. 

And, hate to spoil this for you, but more often that not the actual act that you are PASSIONATE about doing, is not immediately connected to making loads of money. In the moment, you can’t see how just participating in something you LOVE will bring the wealth you desire. It often doesn’t fit a paradigm in our society of what we consider a highly respectable career, so you immediately fear the possibility of pursuing what you love and, instead, TALK YOURSELF OUT OF WHAT YOU ACTUALLY WANT.

We are SO good at doing this. Please, hear me. You have probably convinced yourself 100x over since you started reading this that this doesn’t apply to you and that you’ve never talked yourself out of doing what you love. But, really though…look deeper. 

Ask yourself some difficult and honest questions, are you where you truly WANT to be? Do you get EXCITED when you wake up in the morning to pursue what you are doing? Are you going where you are going or doing what you are doing because you want the money? 


This is what finding ourselves is ALL about. Understanding what we truly desire and having the courage to pursue it even amidst all of the uncertainty of how it will all work out. It’s going after it anyways, trusting that because you are so invested, it WILL work out. The Universe LOVES to help those in pursuit of their dreams. 

So, get real, get honest, start digging.

Sincerely, Shakti. <3

P.s. Yes, I did find what I was looking for and no, it wasn’t being a doctor. <3

Yes & No: The Game Changers In Moving Your Life Forward

I can’t tell you how many conversations I have on a regular basis that exist in the nebulous world of, “Maybe” and “I don’t know”. It’s a mental trap that I’ve learned keeps us from being able to move forward proactively with our life.

More often than not, we end up saying YES to things we absolutely DO NOT want to participate in, or NO out of habit. We turn down what we love and lights us up, and we agree to things out of obligation. Then, we have the audacity to wonder – “How’d we end up in this rut?”

I’ll tell you how, lack of proper Yes and No. We do not use them as they should be used – to get us into alignment with our vortex, our highest good. Sadly, we have no idea that just a simple switch in how we use these two little words could dramatically change the quality of our life.

If you are feeling stuck and unable to move forward in your life, if you feel as though you can’t seem to “win” no matter what – it’s probably because your Yeses and your Nos are all sortsa jumbled.

In this video I talk about how to change the course of your life by using those two very simple words for your GAIN.



Ps. When you put this into practice, write us and let us know how it goes!

Apply this! Tell me how it went! <3

The Beginning of a Long Conversation

Hello and welcome to Sincerely, Shakti – what I hope will turn into a long and love filled conversation about life. The creation of this blog comes on the tails of seeing at every turn, the passionate need for authenticity and story-telling. Here you will find many of my videos on different topics as well as (I hope) the opportunity to hop on LIVE with me for Question & Answer sort of sessions.

Thank you for visiting and until we meet again, I leave you with this <3